Adventures as the guiding light
Ok, so now that we’re all in the same place, new content starts…. NOW!
After that soul-crushing chat with the oncologist, dad and I were walking back to reception when he asked…
I heard her, but stood there crying until I was ready stop. Coz that’s all I could do.
I’ll always be grateful for that experience. The feeling of dad supporting me in my grief about his death; of being figuratively and literally held by him.
I’ll remember it always.
Letting it out in such an unrestricted way allowed me to move through the emotion so I could be present with dad and the shitty news.
I loved the sound of that. A beautiful purpose that could serve as the guiding light for us in the darkness of our mid-to-near future.
My priorities reorganised themselves.
Dad had a few memory-making ideas….
Because it was most definitely
We made a pact:
And that’s where we’re at. Making memories. Having adventures.
A wee bit of admin
Given my current need to reprioritise my time and energy, Great Things paid subscriber benefits feel like too much for me to commit to at present.
I am not usually someone who promises things and then reneges. But this little curve ball has interfered with many of my plans.
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Ok, time for questions!
Things I’d love to know:
Did you have a favourite drawing today?
Got any wisdom to share with me about your journey of acceptance (re anything you’ve found initially hard to accept)?
I’m in love with graphic novels atm! Got any you wanna recommend?
Anything else you wanna share with me/us?
What do you eat for breakfast?
Hi Mehda, You have already done the one thing I couldn't do for three years after my husband died - to say these are the facts - now what are we going to do? I think your priorities are in perfect order: take care of you, take care of Dad, and make memories. In retrospect, I would have done more of that. He had dementia, so it would have been a greater challenge, and there were some by accident, but we could have made more - for me to have and hold today.
4. Record your Dad and have a conversation. Having his voice is a great gift.